Evan McCrary

You may already know your patterns, where they came from, and what you want to change. But insight alone does not always lead to change, particularly when old experiences and ways of protecting yourself continue to show up in your emotions, body, relationships, and daily choices. I believe change happens when we slow down enough to notice what is happening, allow ourselves to feel what is there, understand what shaped our responses, process the experiences that still impact us, and practice making different choices. Over time, those choices can become new ways of relating to ourselves, others, and the world. Our work together follows this process. Rather than immediately trying to fix or get rid of difficult emotions, we will build your capacity to stay present with your experience without avoiding it, acting on it, or becoming overwhelmed. We will explore what your emotions and patterns communicate about yourself, relationships, safety, love, and belonging, including responses that may have once protected you but no longer serve you. I am primarily an EMDR therapist. We use EMDR to process experiences that continue to shape how you think, feel, relate, and respond in the present. I integrate DBT informed skills to strengthen emotion regulation, distress tolerance, communication, and boundaries, along with Relational Gestalt therapy to deepen awareness of what is happening between us in the therapy room. The outcome of therapy is greater freedom of choice. You can feel something deeply without having to respond in the same way every time. You can understand where a pattern came from without remaining bound to it. Over time, change may look like less reactivity, quicker recovery from distress, greater emotional flexibility, stronger trust in your judgment and values, clearer communication and boundaries, healthier relationship choices, and a greater capacity for intimacy, reciprocity, joy, and connection.